Our society today has changed drastically from what it was before. So many people use cell phones as a means of communication and even to handle business. I had to learn the hard way that some things just really need to be done in person. I love the story that he told about his father and how he father taught him a valuable lesson: "Some things are just better to handle in person". When texting no one knows your true emotion or how you said it so in the long run it can lead to more trouble when you could have just met up with the person to have the conversation.
I love this fact he stated in this book which says "I am the framework for everything that happens in my life". I work at an Elementary school and we all know that these grade level students are always quick to blame someone else when caught doing something wrong. In actuality, we as adults still have this problem sometimes. We blame someone else so that we can feel right!! I wish that he would have took the story from a different standpoint like this when talking about the car wreck issue. So here is my way of describing this story: A drunken, young girl immediately slams on her brakes to stop for a car in front of her and the person riding behind this young girl runs into the back of her car. In North Carolina if you hit someone from behind you are at fault regardless. If you look at the story, the person that would automatically be blamed in a line up is the drunken, young girl because she is drunk. So we must remember that we are the framework for everything that happens in our lives. We control ourselves!
Last but not least, Love is neither about self-determination nor sacrifice. It is a context in which two people build the life they want together. In a marriage, we may have to sacrifice some but the most important part is that we are building a life together and the more you build the happier you are as a unit.
Tiffany,
ReplyDeleteBeing a Kindergarten teacher, I experience the blaming of others on a minute by minute basis. it is amazing how they go from telling on themselves at the toddler stage to transferring the blame onto others at the Kindergarten age.
We must remember that all of our actions have an opposite and equal reaction. Think before you act!! There are always consequences, good or bad!!!!
Great post!!!!!
I agree with you about the part in the book where being the framework for what happens in our lives is discussed. We really do only have control over ourselves and it's time we realize that whatever we put out is what's coming back. The way we express ourselves and communicate pretty much sets the stage for how others will react to us. When it comes to marriage, I also agree with you that love is not about self determination or sacrifice. IT is building and growing. I just celebrated my 10th year of marriage this month and we definitely are still growing together. The best quote I've ever read which is great to keep in mind is the following "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate". ~Barnett R. Brickner
ReplyDeleteInteresting example with the car crash from behind. It's not about fault but the road back and what we decide to take with us for the trip back. Also, I love what you wrote about love being neither selfish or self-sacrificing but building something together. Great thoughts.
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